What to Write in a Sympathy Card

If your reading this you have probably sat for quite a long time already trying to find the perfect words for a special sympathy card.  Thank you for opening your heart to offer support. While there is nothing you can do that can take their pain away, some words can offer more support than others.  However, finding the right words is tricky, you certainly don't want to offend someone who may not be feeling the same comfort that your coping mechanisms offer yourself.  

Here are my 3 quick tips on writing a sympathy card-

1. Keep it short. If you view my sympathy card link to my blog (see below) you'll understand the importance of this. 

2. Address the name of the person who died in the card.  

3. Do not try to explain away the recipients pain...

"At least they are no longer in pain...

"They are in a better place...

"They wouldn't want you to be sad...

"This will get better in time...

"You can have more children...

"God only gives you what you can handle...

"You never know what you have until its gone...

Main point of the sympathy card-The recipient needs to know they are thought of through this difficult time. They don't need a lesson, even if you truly feel your words speak truth, its important to understand that every word you write is going to be measured by someone who is dealing with a hurricane of emotions.  One moment they may agree with those words and the very next they may want to rip your card apart and scream, "how dare they."

Need some examples?  Here are mine-

"Our hearts hurt for the pain you are going through.  Please know that we are thinking of you constantly and praying for you daily."

"I know there are no words that will ease this pain you are going through, we are here for you and will be checking in often."

"You have been through more than I can even imagine.  We are so sorry for the loss of your baby daughter, Zaylee.  Please know we will be keeping you in our prayers over the coming days, months and years. She will never be forgotten."

And of course, direct from my blog post, I hope you will add the most comforting words I ever received-

"This is a time for grieving, no need to send a thank you note"

Blog post~The Best Sympathy Card-

https://weatheredraindrop.com/blogs/news/the-best-sympathy-card-1